A. B. S.


As Interviewed by Vivian S., March 18, 2017

A. B. S. : In Her Own Words

This is A. B. S. on womenís rights.

I grew up in such a time of privilege for me... I remember, I think it was Oprah, who said, ďAs American women, Iím so lucky to have been born here." Because I know that women throughout the world arenít valued, and are hurt, and donít get health care, and donít get what they need, and that really hit me, because I think I took for granted that I could go andÖ I could go to the doctor, and I could, if I didnít feel like talking to my mom about something, I could go to Planned Parenthood and talk to someone there, and it would be anonymous.

Again, I was always cared for, so I was here in a time since all the feminists worked really hard to make sure that we have rights, and we can protect our own bodies, and now thatís starting to be stripped away -- it has been stripped away.

So now, I feel concerned for women, again, here, even here. So in my life, laws have protected me. Iíve always had health care. Iíve had birth control when I needed it. I have been able to get annual exams. I've, you know, had mammograms, I've had my babies in hospitals; and, at very low cost to me because my insurance has been provided through a job. But again, clearly for many people thatís not the case.

This is A. B. S. on the topic of women authority and how people view it.

And I think a lot of it [pause] a lot of women even, seem to have a problem with women being in charge. And I canít explain that; I know that people have, I donít understand it. Again, that sort of hit me in the back of the head; I thought, why on earth [pause] would that ever be a problem, but clearly it still is. And we still have to fight for [it].

And again, you know, I grew up with my dad telling me, ďLexy, as a women, you're going to have to fight a little harder.Ē And I remember thinking, ďDad, what are you talking about? I can do whatever I want! This is clear! I can go to college, I can get a job, what are you talking about? Youíre just [pause] old. [She laughs] You donít know what youíre talking about, dad. Youíre in the sixties, you were writing letters to the president, you did all the work for me, i'm good!Ē And then I realized that he was right, so [pause] itís sad. So I worked at art galleries for ten years, and both of the galleries I worked for were owned by men. All of the operations, most of what happened, was done by women. Most of the actual getting things done: women. That was interesting, and I remember my dad pointing that out to me. I was like, oh well, thatís just the [laughs]... Oh, I guess youíre right. [pause] Still owned by men... and not to say there arenít incredible women that own galleries.

But I do remember feeling for the first time, people always use that term [pause] bitch, when they talk about a strong women sometimes, like oh sheís such a bitch. And I remember thinking, well if a man acted like that, youíd probably just respect them, and be like oh, well heís just a good businessman. And whereas a women would make that call, you know, in the conference room or wherever you were, theyíd be like ďOh, well sheís just cranky.Ē You know, she wasnít all polite, and like ďoh, okay!Ē she was like, no, this is what needs to happen, and people would get all sort of ruffled.