Brian Lee Ramos

As Interviewed by A.J. Ramos, March 19, 2018

Brian Lee Ramos in His Own Words

Hello this interview is about Brian lee Ramos, a stay-at-home-dad, during 2004, when there weren't many stay-at-dads. In this interview he recounts his stories of being a stay-at-home-dad, and what it was like, and why he was a stay-at-home-dad.

We decided to and this is we-I was livin' in-we were livin' in Florida, and we decided it would be best that when you were born, you be born, so we moved back to Amarillo. And your mom had a better paying job, and it was easier for me to take the off to take care of you when were born, so, that's where the decision came that I would be a stay at home dad.

When I was growin' up it was traditional, it was the mom stayed home and took care of the kids, and the dad worked.

Seeing that your mother had kids before you, she was usually my go to, but you know, if I had a serious problem I would either talk your Grandma Miller, or Grandma Ramos.

Hm, I really enjoyed raising, my child, and had financial situations been different, maybe I would've stayed home, maybe I would've started my own business, I don't know. But, returning to work was it was-it was a big transition from staying at home, and taking care of the house, and my son, and everything else, so it was tough, but it was needed.

So, did you face ridicule when you returned to work, or were you overly praised, for being a stay at home dad?

For the most part it was praise. Every comment that I've ever had has been one of that's-that's a pretty stand up thing to do. It's pretty-it's different. But, ya know it-it was a cool choice.

With the current medical conditions, ya know that, hrm, every place that I've worked at since, the birth of A.J., was very cooperative, and willing to work with us, given the medical situation that we were in. So, just getting back to having to work eight hours a day 40 hours a week, it was something I had to get used to again, so yeah.

How did being a stay-at-home-dad affect you?

Hm, that's a tough question. It changed my perspective on life... before that I, wanted to be free and wild, and you know, live my youth, but, when you were born, that changed everything in my eyes, and made me a better person.

How did being stay-at-home-dad affect mom?

She was, good with it, but, ya know, she also worked a lot of hours, and... missed those crucial years of you being a baby, and growing up through your toddler years, so... I'm quite imaginative that that was pretty difficult for her to... to do, and, as I'm very understanding of that, and, I was very lucky to be the one that did it.

You're mother loves Chanel Number Five, and we kept a bottle of it on her vanity in the bedroom, and, one day you came out the room with the bottle in your hand, and it was empty, and you had drank the entire bottle of Chanel Number Five, I think it was more of like half a bottle. But, we were scared to death, and we called poison control, and hospitals, and everybody's like, just don't panic about it, if he starts to act weird, then, maybe you should bring him in, but they were like, don't worry about it for now, and low and behold, nothing ever happened, except you had good breath for a little while.

It was one of the first things that went on my résumé when I went back to work, and when people ask me about it now, I'm not afraid to talk about it, I am proud to be able to say that I was a stay at home dad, and take care of my son.